The Queen Bee Effect

You know her. She’s the spunky confident woman, full of life, and passing out genuine compliments that make the receivers feel worthy and honored to have received her blessings. Men swoon over her, and women want to be her.

Though some women find it hard to like her, mostly out of jealousy, others find her endearing. She has come to grips with knowing she isn’t everyone’s cup of tea and is often judged before she even opens her mouth. Hers is a finely tuned balancing act of effusing fierce confidence and self appreciation while simultaneously building other women up.

Her je ne sais quoi lies in her genuineness and hearty lust for life. She’s happy when the women around her are confident and comfortable in their own skins. It is her personal mission to empower other women because she knows she loses no power by doing such. In fact, she gains power. She encourages her fellow double X chromosome bearers to take pride in their appearances, intelligence, femininity, power, and to own themselves and whatever rooms they occupy. She is a supreme Queen Bee.

Key Queen Bee Traits/Tips:

Know your worth and don’t settle. No matter what it is, don’t settle for less than you feel you’re worthy of, be it relationships, friendships, love, money, spirituality, etc. Settling can be draining and cause you to feel emotionally unbalanced.

Get your money right. Flossing in that Beamer and sporting a Gucci bag doesn’t make much sense if those are your only assets. Learn about budgeting, investing, and bring in more than you spend out. Poverty is spending more than you bring in. Be the controller of your income and financial destiny.

Know when to let go. Don’t hang on to things and people that have met their expiration dates in your life. Make room for the people and things that will continue on with you on your journey to greatness. The people that are meant to be in your life will be there.

Don’t be afraid to say no. No is not a bad word. In fact, it can be a sanity saver. You may get called mean from time to time, but I would rather be referred to as such and have my sanity that to be called nice and be miserable because I signed up for something that I really didn’t want to. One of my personal mottos is: I never do anything I don’t want to do.

Don’t forget about yourself. Take good care of yourself. You are no good to anyone else if you aren’t first good to yourself. Set aside a portion of your income, no matter how small, for yourself. I am sure to set aside funds for my bi-monthly mani/pedi, wine, dark chocolate, and an occasional pair of shoes, dresses, jewelry, or anything else that makes my heart sing. Pampering yourself and practice good mental care. You’ll thank yourself, and you’ll also breathe life into all you come in contact with because you do things for yourself that make you feel good.

Try that thing/those things that you really want to do but are afraid to do. Your life is yours and yours only. You only get one shot at this. Make it worth it! There is hardly anything like the adrenalin rush of facing a fear to make you feel alive.

Keep jealousy far away from you. It’s a hell of a beast and causes people to act in the strangest of ways. Never envy what another has. If anything, use that as proof that you, too, can have whatever you put your mind to, just please don’t set your mind on taking another woman’s man. Notice the signs of jealousy in the people around you. It can help you to expediently rid yourself of the people drilling holes in the boat of your happiness. Trust your gut instincts. Of course there will always be people in the background that will secretly and not so secretly hate on you. My advice for that is to Kanye shrug, don your fiercest pair of high heels and dopest red lipstick, and wink at the naysayers as you strut past them.

Do whatever it takes to feel powerful, bold, sexy, or however you want to feel. Put other women on!!! Empower without losing power. Confidence is sexy, and I believe it’s contagious. Inspire another woman to come into her own Queen Bee-ness. Breed life. What you then create is a ripple effect…The Queen Bee Effect.

“I’m fly as a bumblebee buzzzzzz, can’t nobody fuck wit’ me.” – Erykah Badu (Southern Gul)

Wishing you a bubbly and sweet life!
-Q